“Self care means giving yourself permission to pause”

Today is World Mental Health Day so I wanted to share with you what’s been going on in my brain recently and why self-care is important to have in your routine. Taking care of your own mental health is important every day but on a day like this it seems fitting to share my thoug

I’ve always been a very busy person over the last few years but this year is probably my busiest year to date because so many opportunities have arisen and many things in my life have changed this year. Relationships and friendships have fallen apart as new ones have started and at times it’s easy to get caught up with the stress of it all and get yourself very overwhelmed with a new routine. This year I’ve started a new routine repeatedly and it used to be something that I used to hate, I hated change. However, I’m coming to really like change because it keeps life spontaneous and I almost like the not knowing of what is in store for me.

Lately, I’ve been feeling very overworked and like I can’t keep up with my life. My Google Calendar is full to the point where I can’t add any more onto it and I’m constantly saying to people I can see you after 12 but only until 2 because I know I’ve got work or university. I love being busy but is that a bad thing when you have no time for your own self care? When you’re a driven person like me you think that by being busy you are contributing to your future success and the goals that you want to meet but actually all that I’ve done recently is just neglect myself and my down time. I feel deflated at the moment because I’ve almost ran out of energy it seems.

I am tired and I have so much work to do but all of that seems impossible when you’re not in the right frame of mind. For me I like it when my stress has a solution because it is extremely overwhelming when it feels like there is no solution to your problems. Luckily I have a great set of people in my life at the moment who make me feel like my stress isn’t something that is going to be forever, it’s only temporary. And for that I am so lucky.

When I get stressed it makes me feel really sad and I don’t quite know how to explain how I’m feeling and why I feel that way, I just do. I used to think that being sad was a bad thing and I would get so frustrated at myself when I couldn’t cheer myself up. As time has gone on I’ve realised that sometimes sadness can be an extremely positive thing even though it doesn’t feel like it at the time. I believe that sadness makes me stronger as a person and it teaches me to try and think with a positive mental attitude as much as what I possibly can. It’s ok not to be ok as long as you keep on trying to be ok as the end result.

Whenever I’m sad I tried to acknowledge the fact that other people feel this way too and sometimes we feel that way for no reason at all. It seems illogical that sadness doesn’t necessarily have to have a reason but sometimes you just are and it’s as simple as that. I try to live my life always being cautious of others and their emotions as I try to understand what others are going through. Sometimes I get myself upset when I’m listening to people who feel sad. I just have a lot of love to give I guess and want right help them feel better.

If you can take anything from this little rant of mine today it would just be to be mindful of others and what they’re going through and to be sensitive with how you deal with your responses. And what I’ve taken from my little rant is that I’m going to prioritise my own self-care a little bit more in order not to get caught up with the busy thing that is life.